I LOVE THIS QUESTION. This is what I listen to!
- Like A Staring Contest by The Future Kings Of Nowhere
- St Vincent’s cover of These Days
- Blame-Qui by Gregory And The Hawk
- Only Yesterday by Taken By Trees
- I Do by Margot and the Nuclear So & So’s
- Talking In Code by Margot
- Actually Margot in general
- Departure by Baths
- Wolves by Phosphorescent
- Pawn Shop Blues by Lana Del Rey (haha)
- The Party by St Vincent
- I like to listen to songs that have association with past relationships when I’m wanting to indulge in being sad. Liiiiike
- Anything by Typhoon
- Anything by Yann Tiersen
- Two Doves by The Dirty Projectors
- Pick Pocket by Kate Nash
- The Acoustic Version of Maps by Yeah Yeah Yeahs
- Maybe find songs about your city or cities that you love. Location songs make me sad.
you gotta strive to be the person 10-year-old you needed to see.
I hope someone you love has held you close and said ‘I’m sorry this happened to you’. I hope you know that it is not your fault.
You do not have to carry this alone. You do not have to forget the pain as if it was as insignificant as a paper cut. You do not have to pretend there are no scars left behind, as if it were all a game. You are allowed to say ‘this hurt, and it still hurts, and I am scared it will always hurt’.
You don’t have to pretend there has not been a war waged inside your body.
There has been a war, and many years have been lost, and there have been casualties, and losses. But there have also been heroes, fearless war cries and attempts to make peace. Much has been gained on the battle field, you have grown immeasurably in the time you feel you have thrown away to the ravages of your illness.
Most people will not go through this pain in their lives. They will not have to choose, with the frightening urgency of realising how terrifying this illness truly is, whether or not to live or die. They will not have to take that choice in their own hands and fight every step of the way to make that choice to live a reality.
You are allowed to say, ‘this is the worst thing that has ever happened to me’, you are allowed to be angry and upset and confused. You are allowed to mourn your childhood or high school years, and the fun you never had. But know that there is more fun to be had, more to be gained in the years of health and happiness to come.
I hope you know how strong you are, and I hope you are proud of yourself. Please never forget in the day to day routine that you are not just ‘eating’ or ‘gaining weight’, or ‘learning to love yourself’, you are fighting the hardest battle of them all: the one where you are both the enemy and the ally. I hope you have the courage to say ‘I only made it through this because I’m a fighter’.
Place yourself amongst the strong, the mighty and the powerful. For you are all of these things, and more.
I hope you find peace.
Stop setting yourself
on fire for someone who
stays to watch you burn."
- Always say yes to seeing friends
- Eat breakfast every day
- Recognize that positive change rarely happens overnight
- Accept the screw-ups, but try not to let them happen again
- There is a song to remedy every situation on the planet
- Appreciate the people in your life
- Look for the good in everything
- Try new things and try them often
- Treat yourself as well as you treat others