Anonymous;
I read your tags on that bpd post and was just wondering how you came up with that conclusion. I kind of agree so I just wanted to hear more of what you think about it.

rubyetc:

I’ve done a lot of reading and thinking, in the time I was misdiagnosed and then rediagnosed with a mood disorder and started on medication. I’ve been in therapy with lots of people also given this label. And although they were no doubt extremely unwell, it was very clear that they were suffering with concurrent bipolar, anxiety, eating disorders and drug/alcohol addictions. PTSD and trauma also featured highly, although not in everyone. Similarly with the self harm, it is a symptom attributable to lots of different illnesses and shouldn’t be ‘proof’ of an intrinsic personality disorder. The other thing I observed was young people (I was diagnosed at 18) being called BPD when really what they were going through was partly due to adolescence (A lot of the attachment and interpersonal problems present in teens mimic BPD criteria). It’s incredible dangerous telling a young person, whose identity and psyche is still forming, that they have a possibly incurable problem. I understand my point of view might cause a lot of anger, and I believe there is a subset of people who do have such extensive interpersonal problems that they merit treatment for BPD, BUT I am not invalidating it. I think it’s a useful label if it’s going to help you access DBT or MBT treatments run by doctors who have an open mind about personality and its fluidity. And I just want to put a different perspective on something that seems so extreme and finite. 

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Anonymous;
Helena and her scars

puppyspookhaus:

Helena runs a finger over fractured skin and from her lips escapes a choked sort of laugh. It’s rather funny, really, the way that if she closes her eyes she can almost believe she has done something good.

Still, Helena was never meant to fly.

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humorinrecovery:

Being shocked that someone knows about my self harm/eating disorder even when it’s super obvious

humorinrecovery:

Being shocked that someone knows about my self harm/eating disorder even when it’s super obvious

Anonymous;
Alison sees Helena's scars for the first time

politeyeti:

She steps back with a low, startled noise, hand going to her throat at the sight of uneven scars crossing her back in the shape of wings, crudely carved into pale flesh; the oldest ones seem well-healed, but some are clearly newer, still pink and angry, clearly irritated by her clothing. 

Helena moves to pull away, to cover herself, a dangerous, trapped animal noise escaping her, and Alison hums gently in response, not quite a tune to any song she knows, her hand shifting from her own throat to Helena’s shoulder. 

"I have some cream that might make them hurt less," she offers, and Helena breathes, gruff with an unknowable emotion, "Yes."

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You are the weirdest, most beautiful person that I’ve ever met in my whole entire life.
sanativemagazine:

Sanative Magazine’s 50 alternatives to self harm ordered by mood.
It is important in many peoples recovery journey to have a management plan when working through self harm. People can experience a wide variety of moods when the urge to self harm arises, although this list only deals with a few moods I hope that it is comprehensive and you will be able to understand that if you are feeling jealous you may like to try out the sad suggestions (if you are feeling particularly down), or the angry ones (if you are feeling particularly riled up and filled with frustrated energy).
It is good to have a few ideas that you would be willing to try in mind before the urge becomes too much to bare. Different emotional states often respond best to emotion specific responses, which is why lists like these can help. Keep any ideas that you are drawn to written down and try them next time you are feeling as if you want to self harm. These distraction and self soothing lists will be in constant revision as you find out what works for you (some things won’t work, and often nothing will work 100% of the time, but it is important to keep working at it.)
As with any mental health concern I recommend getting the assistance of a professional to work alongside you in this journey.
Here are a list of some distractions & self soothing ideas based on mood. Some of these activities could overlap into another mood, so don’t feel like they’re set in stone - use whatever you think would be helpful!SAD1. Cry it out.2. Watch a ridiculous comedy. 3. Take a warm shower4. Listen to inspiring, upbeat music.5. Spend time with a pet.6. Organise your room7. Phone a friend or even visit them8. Read a trashy magazine9. Make a list of quotes and lyrics that inspire you10. Make a list of places you’d like to visit, or things you’d like to do within your lifetime.11. Write how you’re feeling in a journal12. Go for a long and peaceful walk13. Bake or cook a favourite dish14. Go to the movie theatre and watch the next movie that comes on (of course attempting to ensure that it will be trigger free)15. Watch silly daytime television.16. Play a video game or a board game.17. Write letters to your best friends and send them if you wish to.18. Start drawing, or a create a collage of how you’re feeling - don’t worry about how it looks, no one has to see it.19. Cuddle a soft toy
ANXIOUS20. Place a blanket in the dryer and wrap it around yourself21. Make a cup of tea/coffee and attempt to focus mindfully on your actions whilst preparing and drinking the tea.22. Look up and learn breathing techniques and mindfulness strategies, if you see a health professional try talking to them about these strategies and work out a plan of how to practice these techniques so that you’ll eventually be able to successfully use them when your urges seem unmanageable.23. Run yourself a warm bath and fill it with aromatherapy oils.24. Count by 9’s25. Paint your nails26. Colour in a mandala27. If you are religious, pray or meditate.28. Take photographs of something that catches your eye. Upload it somewhere like Instagram.29. Collect a list of silly websites! For example30. Look up funny cats and dogs on Youtube. Trust me. It’s endless and brilliant.31. Fill in a CBT ABC worksheet or something similar. You can ask your therapist for something of the sort. Here is a good resource, it contains thought records as well. You can even draw up your own as these are arguably not the most aesthetically pleasing worksheets.http://www.psychologytools.org/download-therapy-worksheets.html32. Watch a candle burn.33. FingerpaintANGRY34. Dance to ridiculous music35. Scream out to music that expresses how you feel36. Scream into a pillow37. Punch a pile of pillows 38. Invest in a punching bag. Punch the absolute shit out of it.39. Write a letter to someone you’re mad - swear at them, scream at them, get it ALL out, and and tear it up40. Eat a lemon, sour loly, a chili - anything that will focus on your senses without hurting you.41. Hold ice cubes in your hand, rub them under your knees, on the heels of your feet.42. Watch a film that makes you laugh.43. Take your dog for a walk44. Wash the dishes45. Go for a run/sprint46. Write your thoughts on your body in red pen.47. Hit soft toys/pillow against the wall repetitively.48. Have a cold shower. With your clothes on if need be. If you get out of the shower and your urges/anger comes back, get in the shower again.ALL:49. CALL A HELP LINE OR THERAPIST IF YOU ARE IN DANGER OR ARE FEELING UNSAFELASTLY:50. Remember that not every distraction will work and it is still important to consider why you are self harming to begin with. According to DBT therapy distractions are not a CURE for self harm, rather they are a technique to be used whilst the urges are too severe to work on. Aftere the urge has subsided it is important to SPEAK TO SOMEONE about how you are feeling. It is 34239534973657864% recommended that you find a health professional you trust to talk through these things with.
I repeat: NOT EVERY DISTRACTION WILL WORK. And those that do may not help every time. A slip up, or a 100, do not make you a “failure” of recovery. The fact that you are actively trying to get help and find other ways of coping is AMAZING. Try (and try and try) not to be hard on yourself!It is important in many peoples recovery journey to have a management plan when working through self harm.It is good to have a few ideas that you would be willing to try in mind before the urge becomes too much to bare. Keep these ideas written down and try them next time you are feeling as if you want to self harm. These distraction and self soothing lists will be in constant revision as you find out what works for you.As with any mental health concern I recommend getting the assistance of a professional to work alongside you in this journey.

sanativemagazine:

Sanative Magazine’s 50 alternatives to self harm ordered by mood.

It is important in many peoples recovery journey to have a management plan when working through self harm. People can experience a wide variety of moods when the urge to self harm arises, although this list only deals with a few moods I hope that it is comprehensive and you will be able to understand that if you are feeling jealous you may like to try out the sad suggestions (if you are feeling particularly down), or the angry ones (if you are feeling particularly riled up and filled with frustrated energy).

It is good to have a few ideas that you would be willing to try in mind before the urge becomes too much to bare. Different emotional states often respond best to emotion specific responses, which is why lists like these can help. Keep any ideas that you are drawn to written down and try them next time you are feeling as if you want to self harm. These distraction and self soothing lists will be in constant revision as you find out what works for you (some things won’t work, and often nothing will work 100% of the time, but it is important to keep working at it.)

As with any mental health concern I recommend getting the assistance of a professional to work alongside you in this journey.

Here are a list of some distractions & self soothing ideas based on mood. Some of these activities could overlap into another mood, so don’t feel like they’re set in stone - use whatever you think would be helpful!

SAD
1. Cry it out.
2. Watch a ridiculous comedy. 
3. Take a warm shower
4. Listen to inspiring, upbeat music.
5. Spend time with a pet.
6. Organise your room
7. Phone a friend or even visit them
8. Read a trashy magazine
9. Make a list of quotes and lyrics that inspire you
10. Make a list of places you’d like to visit, or things you’d like to do within your lifetime.
11. Write how you’re feeling in a journal
12. Go for a long and peaceful walk
13. Bake or cook a favourite dish
14. Go to the movie theatre and watch the next movie that comes on (of course attempting to ensure that it will be trigger free)
15. Watch silly daytime television.
16. Play a video game or a board game.
17. Write letters to your best friends and send them if you wish to.
18. Start drawing, or a create a collage of how you’re feeling - don’t worry about how it looks, no one has to see it.
19. Cuddle a soft toy

ANXIOUS
20. Place a blanket in the dryer and wrap it around yourself
21. Make a cup of tea/coffee and attempt to focus mindfully on your actions whilst preparing and drinking the tea.
22. Look up and learn breathing techniques and mindfulness strategies, if you see a health professional try talking to them about these strategies and work out a plan of how to practice these techniques so that you’ll eventually be able to successfully use them when your urges seem unmanageable.
23. Run yourself a warm bath and fill it with aromatherapy oils.
24. Count by 9’s
25. Paint your nails
26. Colour in a mandala
27. If you are religious, pray or meditate.
28. Take photographs of something that catches your eye. Upload it somewhere like Instagram.
29. Collect a list of silly websites! For example
30. Look up funny cats and dogs on Youtube. Trust me. It’s endless and brilliant.
31. Fill in a CBT ABC worksheet or something similar. You can ask your therapist for something of the sort. Here is a good resource, it contains thought records as well. You can even draw up your own as these are arguably not the most aesthetically pleasing worksheets.
http://www.psychologytools.org/download-therapy-worksheets.html
32. Watch a candle burn.
33. Fingerpaint

ANGRY
34. Dance to ridiculous music
35. Scream out to music that expresses how you feel
36. Scream into a pillow
37. Punch a pile of pillows 
38. Invest in a punching bag. Punch the absolute shit out of it.
39. Write a letter to someone you’re mad - swear at them, scream at them, get it ALL out, and and tear it up
40. Eat a lemon, sour loly, a chili - anything that will focus on your senses without hurting you.
41. Hold ice cubes in your hand, rub them under your knees, on the heels of your feet.
42. Watch a film that makes you laugh.
43. Take your dog for a walk
44. Wash the dishes
45. Go for a run/sprint
46. Write your thoughts on your body in red pen.
47. Hit soft toys/pillow against the wall repetitively.
48. Have a cold shower. With your clothes on if need be. If you get out of the shower and your urges/anger comes back, get in the shower again.

ALL:
49. CALL A HELP LINE OR THERAPIST IF YOU ARE IN DANGER OR ARE FEELING UNSAFE

LASTLY:
50. Remember that not every distraction will work and it is still important to consider why you are self harming to begin with. According to DBT therapy distractions are not a CURE for self harm, rather they are a technique to be used whilst the urges are too severe to work on. Aftere the urge has subsided it is important to SPEAK TO SOMEONE about how you are feeling. It is 34239534973657864% recommended that you find a health professional you trust to talk through these things with.

I repeat: NOT EVERY DISTRACTION WILL WORK. And those that do may not help every time. A slip up, or a 100, do not make you a “failure” of recovery. The fact that you are actively trying to get help and find other ways of coping is AMAZING. Try (and try and try) not to be hard on yourself!It is important in many peoples recovery journey to have a management plan when working through self harm.
It is good to have a few ideas that you would be willing to try in mind before the urge becomes too much to bare. Keep these ideas written down and try them next time you are feeling as if you want to self harm. These distraction and self soothing lists will be in constant revision as you find out what works for you.
As with any mental health concern I recommend getting the assistance of a professional to work alongside you in this journey.


The first time my brother brings home a razor blade, it is not for his weak and scraggly beard. I only learn this when I walk in on him in the bathtub, singing praises to his blood. He says his prayers and asks for silence, like this is Sunday mass, and after we will walk out and take off our shiny shoes.

The first time my brother brings home a rope, it is not to play cat’s cradle. He ties himself a noose and lassoes his neck. Here he is thirteen, coughing up apologies, trying to keep this in. That day, blue is no longer a beautiful color.

The first time my brother buys a gun, he is hungry for the beginning. He flashes a fake ID and does not let the shopkeep know that he is just sixteen, thinking about biting down on the barrel. Yes, he wants bullets in his brittle bones.

The first time my brother takes his pills, it is not to get better. With doctor’s orders of only two a day, he swallows twelve one hour and fifteen the next, leaves the bottle empty on the floor. I hold back his hair when he tells me he doesn’t want to live anymore, and I do not say that 911 knows our family by name.

The first time my brother brings home a boy, I know this is the one that will not leave him with scars. I walk in on them kissing in the kitchen, hands slow and soft, away from all the knives and glass. My brother does not choke on his apologies anymore, but lets his lover eat them from his mouth.

I lock the door. I think of Spring.

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